(In response to the recent crossbow shooting, where a young man murdered his father because his father had abused him and his mother)
This is what I find, we have condolences for the murderer because he was abused and vigilantism is respected in a country where our court system is so congested no progress is mad in any less than five years it seems. And many condemn (rightly so in my opinion) the father because he was abusive, so we say he had it coming to him, he ‘deserved’ to die because he abused his child therefore those mental scars provoked the son to kill his father.
However, what happens if we ask if the father was abused as a child? Then are we not supposed to sympathize with the father because he was abused and therefore those mental scars led him to hit his wife and children? Therefore then by our own standards of sympathy for those son do we not have to find condolences for the father or risk being hypocrites?
Perhaps the truth is that despite what horrors of abuse our parents bestow onto us we must accept that we make our own choices and need to be punished for them justly despite the so called “mental scars” we must endure? For if we have so much sympathy for every violent criminal we would have no one in our jails, and murderers and rapists would run free.
In cases which do garner so much sympathy for the abused while such factors should be taken into consideration we should not let them be the deciding factor as to what justice is enacted because the bottom line is for most people that we make our own decisions.
Monday, December 6, 2010
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
"If you love something let it go , if it comes back it's yours, if it doesnt it never was."
I've recently realized how true this quote rings, in both the realm of friendships and romances. I never understood the whole concept of "if you love something let it go" until this quote had elaborated on it.
We need to be able to grow as people and explore all our options before we can settle on on person because if we don't I think we would
a) wonder if there was anyone/anything better out there for us that we never explored
b) for the person that has the person come back to them, it reassures that they want to be there. How can we ever be assured of someones love if they have never known anything other than what we have to offer? Knowing someone chooses you over all others- I would think- would reduce jelousy.
It's hard to let go, and I don't really but sometimes it is just not fair to-above all else- yourself to hold someone to you because it feels like you are the only one making any effort and if someone means that much to you it's just torture to yourself.
So there you go cyber-space, I hope you've enjoyed my attempt at sorting out my own thoughts in your vast exspanse.
I've recently realized how true this quote rings, in both the realm of friendships and romances. I never understood the whole concept of "if you love something let it go" until this quote had elaborated on it.
We need to be able to grow as people and explore all our options before we can settle on on person because if we don't I think we would
a) wonder if there was anyone/anything better out there for us that we never explored
b) for the person that has the person come back to them, it reassures that they want to be there. How can we ever be assured of someones love if they have never known anything other than what we have to offer? Knowing someone chooses you over all others- I would think- would reduce jelousy.
It's hard to let go, and I don't really but sometimes it is just not fair to-above all else- yourself to hold someone to you because it feels like you are the only one making any effort and if someone means that much to you it's just torture to yourself.
So there you go cyber-space, I hope you've enjoyed my attempt at sorting out my own thoughts in your vast exspanse.
Monday, November 8, 2010
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder"
When whoever the mysterious "they" is, they were right when they so wisely said that there is beauty in everyday, you just have to look for it.
Sometimes on those mundane days, where every little thing piles up on your never-ending to-do list of tasks beauty is lost on us. It's lost through no fault of the world or people around us, the world and the people around us never stop being beautiful, it is us who fail to recognize it. I realized this today while walking from where my bus drops me of -every morning- to my school and I was astounded by how picturesque and beautiful the sun peeking up from behind the building looked. So I took the photo I posted here on my cell phone.
Then I realized, where I live in the world is constantly surrounded by beauty. It's just a matter of finding it in everyday life. Sometimes its hard, and more often than not I've condemned the world to this awful, industrial, passionless place but then I have moments like this where I realize beauty is always there but sometimes its a choice to see it.
<3
Sometimes on those mundane days, where every little thing piles up on your never-ending to-do list of tasks beauty is lost on us. It's lost through no fault of the world or people around us, the world and the people around us never stop being beautiful, it is us who fail to recognize it. I realized this today while walking from where my bus drops me of -every morning- to my school and I was astounded by how picturesque and beautiful the sun peeking up from behind the building looked. So I took the photo I posted here on my cell phone.
Then I realized, where I live in the world is constantly surrounded by beauty. It's just a matter of finding it in everyday life. Sometimes its hard, and more often than not I've condemned the world to this awful, industrial, passionless place but then I have moments like this where I realize beauty is always there but sometimes its a choice to see it.
<3
Sunday, November 7, 2010
Quotes
If you know me you know I love quotes. So instead of doing my homework which I really should be doing I am going to share some of my favourite quotes with you lovely people of cyber space who may or may not be reading my blog.
"if you love somthing let it go , if it comes back it's yours, if it doesnt it never was"
"the defining factor is never resources, its rescourcefulness"
"believeng that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confindence to follow your heart"
"sometimes life is gonna hit you in the head with a brick, dont loose faith"
"the only way to do great work is to love what you do"
"thinking you are going to die is the best way i know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose"
"your time is limited, so dont waste it living someone else's life"
"dont let the noise of others opiniond drown out your own inner voice"
"You cannot plough a field by
turning it over in your mind."
“I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you.”
“The worst thing you can do for love is deny it; so when you find that special someone, don't let anyone or anything to get in your way.”
"no man is worth your tears, but once you find the one that is, he wont make you cry"
"To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance."
-Oscar Wilde
"we might fall apart if we follow our hearts " -young and stupid by hedley
"love only comes once in a while, it knocks on your door and throws you a smile. It takes every breath and leaves every scar, speaks through your soul and sings to your heart"
"A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words."
What lies behind us, and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Friendship with oneself is all-important because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world."
- Eleanor Roosevelt
"If you judge people, you have no time to love them."
- Mother Teresa
Advice is like snow; the softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon, and the deeper it sinks into the mind."
- Samuel Taylor Coleridge
"Maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed. maybe they just need to run free til they find someone to run wild with them" -sex and the city
"But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well that's just fabulous" -sex and the city
So some of these have authors that I don't know of because I've written them on sticky notes and havent always thought to include the authors name because I never thought I would post them anywhere but here they are, I hope they inspire you as much as they inspire me :)
"if you love somthing let it go , if it comes back it's yours, if it doesnt it never was"
"the defining factor is never resources, its rescourcefulness"
"believeng that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confindence to follow your heart"
"sometimes life is gonna hit you in the head with a brick, dont loose faith"
"the only way to do great work is to love what you do"
"thinking you are going to die is the best way i know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose"
"your time is limited, so dont waste it living someone else's life"
"dont let the noise of others opiniond drown out your own inner voice"
"You cannot plough a field by
turning it over in your mind."
“I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you.”
“The worst thing you can do for love is deny it; so when you find that special someone, don't let anyone or anything to get in your way.”
"no man is worth your tears, but once you find the one that is, he wont make you cry"
"To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance."
-Oscar Wilde
"we might fall apart if we follow our hearts " -young and stupid by hedley
"love only comes once in a while, it knocks on your door and throws you a smile. It takes every breath and leaves every scar, speaks through your soul and sings to your heart"
"A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words."
What lies behind us, and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Friendship with oneself is all-important because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world."
- Eleanor Roosevelt
"If you judge people, you have no time to love them."
- Mother Teresa
Advice is like snow; the softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon, and the deeper it sinks into the mind."
- Samuel Taylor Coleridge
"Maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed. maybe they just need to run free til they find someone to run wild with them" -sex and the city
"But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well that's just fabulous" -sex and the city
So some of these have authors that I don't know of because I've written them on sticky notes and havent always thought to include the authors name because I never thought I would post them anywhere but here they are, I hope they inspire you as much as they inspire me :)
Slightly Lame
A few minuets ago I received a text message saying:
"Update your blog. Loser."
So that is precisely what I plan to do. Now I've realized the only thing lamer than having a blog is, having a blog that you never update.
So I am going to challenge myself to write a post once a week (most likely on Sundays) til the end of December (I cannot promise I will succeed but I will try).
Now with this little challenge here are some things you should probably know if you plan to follow my blog:
1. I may write more than once a week, I cannot promise this or say that this is likely BUT I warn you it may be an unlikely occurrence.
2. I may forget to write, but I'll probably still try to pick it up after that week
3. This may fail, most likely will fail but we will see what happens, no point in dooming something from the very beginning.
As for what I'm going to blog about I have no idea. Like zilch, I'm kind of hoping there will be some inspiration out there that will come and full body tackle me, pinning me down and screaming "WRITE ABOUT ME!!!" but I don't hear of that happening very often.
So let's hope for the best!!!
I forgot to warn you about number 4, which is, I may post more than one blog entry right after each other...unlikely but still
"Update your blog. Loser."
So that is precisely what I plan to do. Now I've realized the only thing lamer than having a blog is, having a blog that you never update.
So I am going to challenge myself to write a post once a week (most likely on Sundays) til the end of December (I cannot promise I will succeed but I will try).
Now with this little challenge here are some things you should probably know if you plan to follow my blog:
1. I may write more than once a week, I cannot promise this or say that this is likely BUT I warn you it may be an unlikely occurrence.
2. I may forget to write, but I'll probably still try to pick it up after that week
3. This may fail, most likely will fail but we will see what happens, no point in dooming something from the very beginning.
As for what I'm going to blog about I have no idea. Like zilch, I'm kind of hoping there will be some inspiration out there that will come and full body tackle me, pinning me down and screaming "WRITE ABOUT ME!!!" but I don't hear of that happening very often.
So let's hope for the best!!!
I forgot to warn you about number 4, which is, I may post more than one blog entry right after each other...unlikely but still
Thursday, August 5, 2010
Secrets?
What is a secret?
Something people don't know about us?
Is a secret only really a secret when no one knows?
i ask because I realized I thought I had all these deep and dark menacing secrets lurking in my closet but then I realized that at least one other person knows a secret about me. I realized they are no longer secrets, now they are more things that I only tell selected people.
This is both horrifying and liberating.
No longer having any secrets makes me feel,
Boring
Vunerable
Liberated
Confused
Dazed
Terrifyed
Thats a secret for you I suppose.
Something people don't know about us?
Is a secret only really a secret when no one knows?
i ask because I realized I thought I had all these deep and dark menacing secrets lurking in my closet but then I realized that at least one other person knows a secret about me. I realized they are no longer secrets, now they are more things that I only tell selected people.
This is both horrifying and liberating.
No longer having any secrets makes me feel,
Boring
Vunerable
Liberated
Confused
Dazed
Terrifyed
Thats a secret for you I suppose.
Saturday, July 24, 2010
Worlds
"Each friend represents a different world within us, a world possibly not born until they arrive and it is only by meeting that a new world is born"
This quote lead me to wonder, what happens to that world when your friendship ends? Does it become uninhabitable because of emotional pollution and reisdue of harsh words?
Do we destroy worlds within us when a frienship ends?
Or do we just grow out of that world? Is it still a part of us but just not as prominant as before?
I think that once a world within us is created it is impossible to destroy, it always effects us and is a part of who we are. But perhaps when the freinship is over it's a part of us in the way that is minimal, hidden, or not apparent. Perhaps its a part of us in the sense we've learned lessons from that person.
But what happens when we try to purposely destroy that world? Is that even possible, is that just the equivalent of not accepting ourself?
When we don't accept ourself maybe its just us not accepting the part of us we don't like and the part of us we don't like is just certain worlds. Do we cut people out who show us a part of ourselve we don't like?
This quote lead me to wonder, what happens to that world when your friendship ends? Does it become uninhabitable because of emotional pollution and reisdue of harsh words?
Do we destroy worlds within us when a frienship ends?
Or do we just grow out of that world? Is it still a part of us but just not as prominant as before?
I think that once a world within us is created it is impossible to destroy, it always effects us and is a part of who we are. But perhaps when the freinship is over it's a part of us in the way that is minimal, hidden, or not apparent. Perhaps its a part of us in the sense we've learned lessons from that person.
But what happens when we try to purposely destroy that world? Is that even possible, is that just the equivalent of not accepting ourself?
When we don't accept ourself maybe its just us not accepting the part of us we don't like and the part of us we don't like is just certain worlds. Do we cut people out who show us a part of ourselve we don't like?
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